Self - Love

There are many reasons we turn to spirituality. We want to feel connection, to heal our wounds, to understand the greater law that governs our existence. And perhaps one of the deepest reasons is this: we want to know who we truly are. Our true essence—the part of us that was there when we were born, untouched, pure—and the part of us shaped by every moment we’ve lived since, every wound, every victory, every heartbreak, every triumph. A unique identity that exists nowhere else on Earth. No one has lived your exact life. No one carries your exact scars, gifts, perceptions, or strength.

Today, as I sat with myself feeling sad, I realized how much of my life I’ve spent trying to fit in—especially in relationships. Telling myself I was “too much,” “too sensitive,” wanting “too deeply.” I kept thinking maybe I just needed to relax, go with the flow, soften my expectations. But then I’d feel the way I was being spoken to, the way I was being touched—and my body knew the truth. It didn’t feel good.

If your body has been through a lot—trauma, neglect, pain—you’re going to long for something different. You’re going to want someone who sees you, who meets you with presence and reverence, who touches you like you are the most precious being in the world. And if you are that kind of woman, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you for needing that. You are that way because you are a unique expression of Source Consciousness. You are that way because it’s okay to be that way. You are that way because there is someone out there who understands that depth and who wants to meet it.

So if you ever feel like something is wrong with you—because you don’t fit in, because you don’t feel met, because you have needs that others judge or can’t comprehend—hear this.

You must accept yourself first.

You have to turn toward that part of you that feels “too much” or “too sensitive” or “unworthy” and hold her. She is not a block to connection—she is connection. She is the part of you formed by everything you’ve been through. She needs love, not more rejection. Acceptance, not more abandonment.

Keep choosing your truth. If you want commitment—honor that. If you want tenderness—don’t apologize for it. If you want passion, devotion, respect—stick to your fucking desire. No matter how long it takes. Do not betray yourself for the comfort of someone else. Do not shrink to be acceptable.

You deserve the kind of love you’ve never felt before.

You deserve it first from you—in the space between you and you.

That’s where the magic begins.